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Over the last 4 weeks, we have looked at four crises facing the younger generation today. As we talk about all the things that are hard, confusing, and even dangerous to our children, it can be easy to despair. Is there hope for our younger generations? YES! We can make a difference. The power of a healthy family should not be overlooked!

So what makes a healthy family? Let’s take a look at some key factors:

  1. Healthy families model integrity. Proverbs 10:9a “The man of integrity walks securely…” Kids want authenticity. Integrity provides security for our children. As adults, be people of integrity.
  2. It’s the power of being there! Never underestimate the power your presence has on your children. They regard your very presence as a sign of caring and connectedness. This includes physically being present, as well as being mentally and emotionally present when you are with your children. It is important to spend time with your children that is free from other distractions.
  3. Express Affection, Warmth, and Encouragement. A family with a sense of A.W.E., as opposed to shame-based parenting, is a home where both children and spouses will feel more secure. Did you know that a study out of UCLA showed that it takes 8-10 meaningful touches per day to maintain self esteem and healthy relationships? What is the tone of your home? Is it always chaotic and negative? Work to be a home that is warm and encouraging. Be your children’s biggest cheerleader, while still holding to set boundaries. Have fun together!
  4. Communication of love is a key. Positive communication is a language of love for our children. There are five basic love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Do you know your child’s love language? Find out and be intentional about communicating love in a language they understand best.
  5. Play is a necessary ingredient for a close-knit family. Families who play together have a better connection. There is nothing like play to bring about family togetherness and communication.
  6. Energize your family’s spiritual life. Our greatest calling in life is to leave a spiritual legacy for our children. Spend time together reading the Bible and praying. Make God a very real part of every single day. Be intentional about inviting Jesus into every moment spent with your children.

Sometimes as parents, it can feel as if we are walking this difficult road alone. However, I can assure you that God is with you. Ask him to guide you. Reach out to others at church. There are parents of every age and stage who would love to walk alongside you through both the good and the hard. Don’t try to do it alone. With God and His people walking alongside you and encouraging you, you can have a healthy, thriving family!

“Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give to you are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”